Sunday, February 21, 2010

To Kiss Or Not To Kiss...that is the question.

Okay.  Let's say you're single, and haven't had a date in a while, a few months.  Suddenly, someone who you met in passing asks you out.  He's handsome, well-established and eager to go out with you.  So you go out.  The date is romantic.  He opens the door for you, compliments you, takes you to a great place to eat.  The conversation is good, the chemistry is there, and you find yourself blushing.  The evening is over. He kisses you...and kisses you...and it gets to a point where you're flustered.  That's what happened to me! 

Those kisses can become quite intense fairly quickly if I just let it go.  But that's when I'm in dangerous territory.  My mind races...how far...oh, that kiss so warm...should I let...wow, he's a great kisser...him...STOP!!  I stop him before I know his hands will want to wander and explore.  I call it a night.  I thank him, tell him I would love to see him again.  I get home, lock the door and lean against the bathroom wall:  "That was close, whew - cold shower, cold shower! "  It's isn't that I'm not human or have no desires, but I always remind myself there are consequences such as pregnancy, disease, and possibly having him label me as a slut...So can you tell me what happened next.

NOTHING!!!  That's right, ladies and gentlemen...NEVER HEARD FROM HIM AGAIN!  I suffer for a week, replaying the date in my mind over and over again.  The only thing that comes to mind is that I refused his advances.  Bottom line. in New York slang:  He thought he was gonna get some!! NAH AH, LOL!    Oh by the way, that story is from an episode that occurred over a year ago.

Tonight, after a year, he called me.  "Judy, I miss you, girl!"  "You miss me?  What do you miss about me?" I challenged him.  He said he missed my company and wanted to reconnect....Yea, connect I'm sure.  Here's the freaking weird thing...I like him still.  He is charming and has all the right words...this is the kind of man I warn women about when I perform.  LOL...I know he's full of it...so I told him no. I wish that men would just be honest..."Hi, we don't know each other well, but I'd like to just have sex with you.  You know, just tell the truth.  I can work with the truth.  Tell the truth and let ME decide what I want to do with it.  Just don't pretend that I'm an idiot and don't know the game you're playing.  But in my foolish loneliness, I am almost tempted to see if a year has "changed" him.  Isn't that just like a girl...that I would hold on to hope that a man has changed.  But I am a 41 year old woman now.  I'm much smarter than that.  So yes, I go to bed one more night alone, but I have my virtue, I have my integrity, I don't lose my good reputation, and I don't drive myself crazy obssessing whether or not I'm pregnant...Yea, I did the right thing.  He was a great kisser though, LOL 

7 comments:

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  2. Judy dear- that is called SELF-RESECT!!!REMEMBER- you ARE a celebrity and you DON'T want your sexual life to end up in the tabloids!! BE PROUD of yourself!!! I am of you!!! Heck I'ts been more than 15 yrs I was with someone - and I am NOT DEAD yet!! LOL- Between being single, on welfare(yes I am open about it- why hide it). I focus and drown myself in music (as if no one knew lol) and learning MS Office 2007 for getting a job hopefully this year or next. Love you Leslie xoxo

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  3. I meant to say SELF-RESPECT!!! I hate my misspellings lol xoxo

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  4. My Sis...you did the right thing!! How in the world is he going to call you a year later?? I guess he was not really interested in the you but was more interested in getting you know what...and atleast you had enough SELF RESPECT that you did not let him take advantage. The way I see it...is oh well his loss, he should have made moves a couple of weeks after the fact not wait a year later to say that he misses you. Don't always believe the hype....a man will always tell you what you want to here but does he really mean what he says to you or does he say it because he knows that is what you want to here? And girl...you not just smart...you are INTELLIGENT!!

    Stay strong, Stay Sweet!!
    Love yah!!

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  5. oops I meant hear!! I don't know him but he kind of pist me off with that.

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  6. He's a man.....he hasn't changed. Dont see him unless he explains why he forgot about you for a whole freakin year! Unacceptable. Next!

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  7. I think you did the right thing and most women could have not done what you did. It's an obstacle women face all time. It's so difficult to say no to someone who is so tempting but in reality someone who is so tempting might have not respected you as a virtuous woman. Judy your time will come for you to meet the right person live life and do what you love the most. And when you least expect it Mr.Charming may be looking for you.

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