Monday, September 20, 2010


So, I took a realistic look at myself.  And my family. Obesity runs in my family - don't know if it's genetic or not, but it is a reality. Diabetes is now part of my mom's life and I'm afraid I could be next one day.  As  much as I work on loving myself, I've been reading a book called  Women, Food & God.  The book was talked about on Oprah (and you know how much I love her).  The book suggests the idea that women who eat compulsively are not only trying to stuff down pain, anger, boredom, fear, etc, but they are disconnected with God, with living life to the fullest.  It suggests that your body is an IMMEDIATE reflection of how you feel about life & pain, love and being loved, etc.  It got me thinking that I have not been very kind to me at all lately.  I admit it. I struggle.  We all do.  We all have a monkey on our back & this is my momkey.  This monkey has lived with me so long, I am actually having back aches about it.  With the heartache of my recent meeting with my manager, which left me feeling HORRIBLE, and the fact that I don't want to cry victim, I decided to go ahead and try something new.  So I joined a new gym (I needed change of scenery) and have been taking Zumba classes for the last two weeks!

Zumba is a type of group dance/aerobic class. The Zumba program borrows Latin flavor from the following dance styles: Cumbia, Salsa, Merengue, Mambo, Flamenco, Chachacha, Reggaeton, Samba, Belly dancing, Bhangra, Hip Hop, and Tango.  You can easily burn 300-800  calories an hour, depending how much energy & effort you put into it.  Well, my first Zumba class, my friends, kicked my ass!! I didn't feel it at first, but the next day I felt like that cartoon that was flattened by a truck!  BUT.  It is so much fun!!  What I love about it is that men and women are in the class, comprised of all different shapes & sizes, nationalities and physical abilities.  Our Zumba instructor, Jeannine, is INCREDIBLE! Shemakes me wanna be a sexier woman!! LOL...she is truly a fireball of energy!   So as I limped my way over to the computer to write this blog, I am thankful that I not only got my body moving again,. but I'm having so much fun that the class flies by! Jeanine, the instructor, recognized me immediately and I almost didn't believe it.  She insisted, "I KNOW you!"
I looked at her with a blank face, "You do?"
"Yes, I know you!"
"From the other gym perhaps?"
Great, now I had like 40 people looking at me!
When the class was over, she began teaching another class...I was in the locker room as I heard a familiar beat.  LOL. I walked over to the classroom and just showed her my two thumbs up, with a kool-aid smile!!  She was teaching to Come Into My Arms!!!  Wow...I was flattered!  She nodded and said, "Do you know who she is?"  LOL..I thanked her and walked away.
So for as long as I can, I will be taking Zumba lessons!!! And with some time under my belt, I will have better cardio endurance and hopefully a litle weight loss too.

Now. Last night I had a date..or I thought I had one.  For a couple of days I was talking with this man, and he offered to have a couple of drinks with me after my shift. This man looked promising. We shared similar senses of humor, outlooks on life, etc...Of course, whenever I blog about any man, he remains anonymous unless he permits me to use his name. So for lack of a better name, we'll call him Football Man.  Football man had spoken with me throughout the week and left me a very good impression. I thought to myself, Now THIS is a man
Yesterday I woke up, not sure of what to expect, but I was looking forward to it.  Since I'd meet him after working at KTU, it was important to go into work dressed for the date.  After spending a good forty minutes or so debating what to wear, I finally had it figured out and felt good about my choices.  I grabbed my keys, bag and cell phone. And there it was. A text:
"Hey, my brother invited me to a Jets game...maybe we can do this tomorrow night? Thanks."    

What the hell did I just read?  What was that? Are you kidding? This pissed me off on so many levels - I cannot even begin...yes, I can.  First of all, a text instead of a phone call to cancel plans?  Secondly, you chose a football game over a date that was pre-planned? Third, you don't even have the balls, I mean gall, to APOLOGIZE. Oh, my God. I will tell you something about me that you should know.  I HATE when people CANNOT say sorry, or I apologize, or when they don't even acknowledge that your feelings are possibly hurt.  Big pet peeve for me!!  It's a five letter word:  sorry. It can fix things with me in a minute.

I'm not a mean girl. I have compassion and empathy.  Inviting a man to a football game is like inviting me to a musical...Almost impossible to turn down.  If he had called, and told me that he barely sees his brother and this is a rare opporutnity. If he told me the Jets were his favorite team, and he'd see me afterward, etc. etc. I would have understood.  But to send a text and then suggest we do it tomorrow - as if I don't have a life and nothing better to do.  Oh, please.  So I know now you're wondering what did I do?  I texted him back. I am very busy can do. Period. Then I went to work looking cute - on a radio program where not one person gets to see me, lol.  But then I went home and I was mad.  Suddenly a couple of men were texting me.  I answered no one back...people need to learn how to call again.  I turned off my phone, turned on the t.v. and watched misses episodes of Rome on HBO...yea, that felt a hell of a lot better!!

So in conclusion...I love zumba...I am indifferent to football.  LOL. Football is an American pasttime. Throughout my dating history, each man I dated or serious boyfriend I've had has NEVER had the patience or possessed the interest in teaching me about football. So unfortunately I equate football with being ignored...and last night just confirmed that notion. 

Love Zumba -
Hate football.

Um dear Mr. Football!  There will NEVER be a touchdown field goals, no scoring!!!  I hope the Jets will cuddle you & kiss you goodnight!! LOL...                      




  1. Hi Judy: On Saturday I did a Zumba class and loved it. Yeah even today, Monday I still feel like a big black&blue all over my body but once I go for a few more classes the pain will be my GAIN!!!!!. I'm so glad your doing it as well. Let's do a class together. It's good to have a friend to do it with. That would be crazy fun. I too have struggled with my weight for many yrs. The health issues in my family are diabetis and heart diease. I already have high blood pressure. I don't want to get diabetis. I need help. I feel like I'm out of control. Hopefully Zumba will helP me.

    Judy, I'm so sorry that MEN are stupid. The right thing for Football man to do was call you period. That texting to cancel a date is immature. You see, MEN ARE STRANGES CREATUES!!!. MY GOD Judy, You are a DIAMOND. You are always first. You deserved better then that. FOOTBALL MAN, YOU LOST OUT ON A FIELD GOAL THAT WOULD HAVE LASTED A LIFETIME. STUPID IS AS STUPID DOES. How could you pass up a date with the lovely Judy Torres for a FOOTBALL games? What were you think? Are you insane? Too bad for you. Judy babygirl move on. Throw him into the foul line, Cause he missed out on a GREAT CATCH.
    Keep your head up high because you are wonderful. He's an airhead. Don't lose hope. Their is a good man looking for you too. You just having run into him yet.
    Love You sweety.
    Connie Ruiz

  2. Judy,
    First let me say that I follow you on FB and just adore you. You are a real lady and I love that you say it as you see it. I can relate to your "Mr. Football" story. After ending a 20 year relationship, 11 of which I was married, I am entering the dating world and I can tell you that it has been full of disappointments. I too had a date with a guy last week, let’s call him the cable guy, for obvious reasons LOL. Since we had planned to meet directly after work, I too went to work all dressed for the night. When on my way to Macy’s to buy a new lip gloss, I get a text "Have to reschedule, just wanted to give you plenty of notice". WTF? Are you kidding me??!! I now realize that the dude did me a favor, because I have way more to offer him then he would me, but nevertheless it is very disappointing. I don't see men very interested in having a relationship these days. I think they are focused on making themselves happy and doing what they want. I just want to have a companion to share a movie or dinner with. I mean I have a great support group of family and friends, but there is something sexy about going out with a man. However, I will never settle for someone who does not put me first. Good luck Judy. Know you are not alone sister and our prince charming is out there just waiting for us. Peace, love and happiness.

  3. Judy,
    I love that you are able to handle being hurt like that with such class and sophistication. I have been a life long fan of yours and I must say I feel like I know you better than some of my own friends! You truly are a gem and I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason! The positive in this is that you were able to see this side of Mr Football way ahead of the game... Most ladies end up with a "Mr Football" for life because they were too blind to see all the imperfections in the beginning. We all know that this was definitely HIS LOSS and YOUR GAIN! He probably would have bored you to death anyway and you look like you had a blast at Zumba class! :) God Bless you Judy Torres, you truly are a the epitome of a woman, a true gem! xoxo :)

  4. looking GOOD!!!!!!! Funny thing, my doctor even said constant dancing - even in my room sine my budget won't allow dance classes-- can hekp me lose weight - along of course with walking and for men, why don't you - with all due respect--ask your freestyle co-performers-George Lamond,Lisa Lisa, and others that EITHER is married now OR is partner hunting OR also involved in the dating scene- get their views- how they find their partner-where-how- networking? friend recommendation? family connections? You get the pointt!!

    The reason I suggest that is since you ARE A CELEBRITY, maybe men fear that distinction?? Just a thought!!

    Love ya always!! XOOX

  5. So it's safe to say Mr. Football is out and Zumba is IN! all I have to say is BRAVO I would've done the same exact thing ;) Looking good for work with nobody there to see you? NO Biggie I do it all the time lol it makes ME feel good, didn't it make you feel good? like "Jerk you should see what you're missing" lol