tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-88432616123445761.post9105471409055771673..comments2023-05-28T01:49:23.470-07:00Comments on Dear Judy: WHY "STAY"?Judy Torreshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01959100310748356791noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-88432616123445761.post-60588435581653035802010-09-07T16:57:29.320-07:002010-09-07T16:57:29.320-07:00To continue the discussion....I've been in a w...To continue the discussion....I've been in a wonderful relationship with my partner for 13 years. And we are both very happy with each other. My secret to not cheating on him is that my heart is simply NOT OPEN to that option. I know that I'm in a great relationship. I've found everything I've been looking for and I do not have an urge to step out of our relationship to look for anything further. People cheat because they are unhappy with their relationship and are seeking something more satisfying. And in doing so they are creating unnecessary hurt for so many people.Angel Lovehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07395230918151879056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-88432616123445761.post-11397102330960923582010-09-07T13:21:48.219-07:002010-09-07T13:21:48.219-07:00I think in real life 90% of women and men have che...I think in real life 90% of women and men have cheated - no matter how much one wants to deny it. Just look at the divorce stats from the 80s and 90s. People lack communication in partnerships and being BLUNT and HONEST. I wish men (to a woman) would say "I am interested in dating you but I am also dating someone else" OR"I am interested in dating you but I am MARRIED but not sure I still love her" but we ladies KNOW that will NEVER happen!!LeslieMGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07406502536368114535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-88432616123445761.post-82291414686991579202010-09-07T11:28:56.986-07:002010-09-07T11:28:56.986-07:00remember when we spoke the other night and i said ...remember when we spoke the other night and i said flat out that i'm noticing more and more in this and around this video each and every day as i watch it... minus my unhealthy addiction to it (LOL) you clarification of jennifers take on the last verse totally brings the whole concept and theme of the video full circle and together by the end of the video showing the empowerment of "the other woman" finally realizing ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. Once that point is realized and the video is watched knowing that piece of information, it totally changes the entire perspective and message driven behind the whole video. I honestly thought originally at the end of the video the first time I saw it, that she still wanted him to stay with her (meaning the other woman) and was thinking to myself, "why would she want to have this guy around when he isn't even true to his own wife?" But than when I learned what you stated in the blog, by the end of the video after watching it with a new take i realized shes telling him "why dont you stay with your wife... im up off my knees (meaning, i'm no longer weak and brought down to the lowest point) go and get out of my life." Which means in life, we really cannot expect to have our cake and eat it too. I personally feel this video is a great depiction of the words FEELINGS and EMOTIONS. When situations in real life come up like this, peoples emotions and feelings are at stake, and sometimes "the bastard" doesn't realize what he is doing to the feelings and mental stability of a woman. This video and story has taught me to never, ever to even consider succumbing to the temptation of another woman when i will be involved with "my special someone." I've said it before I DON'T LIKE TO SEE MY FRIEND CRY, but than again shes a brilliant actress and displayed truth. Do i think Judy is condoning adultery in this video ABSOLUTELY NOT! If anyone even gets that message from this, theres totally something wrong with that persons opinion, in my opinion. LOL. To me this excellent video, shows a thing or two from both perspectives. 1. The guy lives a double life. We often feel sorry for the wife being cheated on, but what about the mistress who is just longing to be loved and her emotions, maybe not even knowing the full extent of his other life. and 2. The mistress isnt always a bad woman with bad intent. Whose to say she isnt a devout christian, in church etc... and thinking she found her true happiness. So what it comes down to is lol us men are SCUM! LOLOLOL All kidding aside, i think its a great video, great song, great concept, and anything that can cause this much attention means one thing.... ITS A HIT JUDY!!!! IM PROUD AND I LOVE YOU! Continued success and Gods Blessings with this entire ride, wherever it may lead you. xoxoxoxoxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-88432616123445761.post-65639755563760617712010-09-07T06:31:57.074-07:002010-09-07T06:31:57.074-07:00I think it's just simply a self esteem issue. ...I think it's just simply a self esteem issue. If you value yourself, then you will not allow others to mistreat you. My friend who has been single a very long time has the perfect phrase..."I'd rather be alone than in bad company." She is very picky when it comes to a boyfriend, and that's because she sees a lot of bad men out there. She even recently discovered that her brother cheated on his wife for years and had a mistress! My personal view is that if you are not happy in a relationship or situation, then do something about it....get up and leave. It may not be easy, but it's the best thing to do for yourself. And once you are free from the drama and negativity in your life, your life is now open to receive the good things you were meant for.Angel Lovehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07395230918151879056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-88432616123445761.post-77324313383849704962010-09-06T21:28:45.472-07:002010-09-06T21:28:45.472-07:00Judy I PERSONALLY have been in a few short term (l...Judy I PERSONALLY have been in a few short term (less than 3 months LOL) relationships MANY YEARS AGO lol where the guy was dating another woman at the same time. That is based on the very few relationships I've had lol. However, I have seen/heard about SOOOOOO MANY MEN cheating on girlfriends it is almost sickening and most women do know men CANNOT commit compared to women ready to commit. That is only MY observation. I could be wrong. Yes I do know women cheat also but I PERSONALLY have known over the many years more men cheating than women cheating. <br /><br />And don't people realize that is the MAIN reason for divorce?? I think in the 1970s and part of the 1980s there were a lot of divorces. When I went to Fashion Inst.of Technology from 1998-2000I knew a LOT of students whose parents were divorced.<br />Again, GREAT AWESOME SONG AND VIDEO XOXOXXOX!!!!LeslieMGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07406502536368114535noreply@blogger.com