tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-88432616123445761.post7724679185404216078..comments2023-05-28T01:49:23.470-07:00Comments on Dear Judy: THE REALITY OF MORTALITYJudy Torreshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01959100310748356791noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-88432616123445761.post-70575858862135378492011-05-19T14:40:13.697-07:002011-05-19T14:40:13.697-07:00Judy what a beautiful post. The love and respect y...Judy what a beautiful post. The love and respect you have for your parents flows freely from you. I am sure that they are very aware of this love. I think that no matter how old we are the fear and pain of losing one's parents is very real and can be overwhelming. I've experience the loss of many of my elders. Papi and abuelita died of diabetes. And Mami and 5 of her siblings all died of some form of cancer. Mami's was the worst cause I nursed her thru 7 long months of painful lung cancer. Papi was blind and my siblings were all still in school. She died in my arms the day after I turned 18. She was only 52.As horrible as that time was I would do it again in a minute if it meant more time with her. It's a void that never really goes away, u just learn to live with it. Papi died at age 63 from heart disease due to the diabetes. He had retired to Florida so my last memories are of him on a respirator in the hospital, he lasted a week. During this time I would only leave the hospital for 30 mins. to bathe and change. I slept in the visitors lounge so I could go in every 15 mins round the clock to check on him. I also miss him dearly. I tell everyone to honor and respect their parents and elders. Never pass up a chance to tell and show them how much you love them. Sometimes tomorrow may be too late. Judy, dichosa eres que aun tienes tus padres contigo. Que bendicion. Don't worry or waste time thinking about their death. Only God has control over that. Continue to be a good daughter, to build happy memories. These memories are what will help you get thru when they are gone. Make it so that you will never have to say "I wish I had...." Turn all those wishes into reality today. God bless you and your parents. <br />I know I talk a lot, so thank you for listening.Anahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13401012580578443903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-88432616123445761.post-81823051079852004132011-05-16T19:27:36.361-07:002011-05-16T19:27:36.361-07:00Both my parents are in their mid sixties and my mo...Both my parents are in their mid sixties and my mom keeps telling me everytime she speaks to me to keep myself healthy and take vitamins because it sucks to get old. LOL. I am 38 years old an I havent lost anyone close to me yet. My grandmother is 94 and she's still with us. I'm not looking forward to dealing with these future scenarios. you just gotta enjoy everyday and cherish the ones you love like jewels. As long as they know you love them and care for them, and did the best you could....that's all that matters.<br /><br />xoxoAngel Lovehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07395230918151879056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-88432616123445761.post-65907545087763290752011-05-16T19:11:48.128-07:002011-05-16T19:11:48.128-07:00At least you're preparing yourself for it Judy...At least you're preparing yourself for it Judy. I never thought my mother would die. I thought she could make it through anything,and I was wrong...and it was the worst pain ever! My "father" died last month~ I could care less cuz I didnt even know the guy. Havent spoke or seen him in like 30 yrs. But losing a parent...quite frankly SUCKS. But hopefully yours have a few more good years to go...we live to die~ thats what we do. Just make the best of it while we're here I guess and prepare for whats to come. Inevitably its death! <br />Be Blessed Judy and dont worry so much...Everything happens for a reason.<br />Love ya chica!<br />Hugz~ BubLatinFreestylehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03782354442953021186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-88432616123445761.post-79073717915607878632011-05-16T06:14:04.314-07:002011-05-16T06:14:04.314-07:00Hi Judy: I soooo feel your concern for your parte...Hi Judy: I soooo feel your concern for your partents. We love our parents and has adults want to protect them and keep them with us as long as possible. Judy, I wil say that you and your father must have that heart to heart you so need. I didn't get the chance to tell my dad how much I loved him before GOD took him. I lost my father when I was 17yrs old to a massive heart attack and OMG!!I miss him dearly. My dad left my mom when I was 5 yrs old and he wasn't really in our lives in the same way. He was kind, loving and in general a good man. He just didn't take care of himself. My mom is doing pretty good. She lives in Orlando Florida which is hard for me. She has medical problems that she keeps in check most times and suffers from depression, which concerns me. I hate being in NY. I miss her sooo much. My mom and I are like twins. I wish I could see her more then two or three times a yr. She is truly my World. I can't imagine losing her. My life would never be the same. As adults we want to take care of our parents cause we can. We want them to be proud of us as well. I'm so thankful to have my mother in my life. I treasure every moment when we're togehter and i'm sure you do as well. Judy this Blog touched me. I Love You Lady.<br />GOD BLESS YOU.<br />CONNIEConniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07963890015319152889noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-88432616123445761.post-62299997993553197522011-05-15T17:32:27.092-07:002011-05-15T17:32:27.092-07:00Omg Judy this blog HITS HOME!!! My mom is 87. She...Omg Judy this blog HITS HOME!!! My mom is 87. She had knee replacement surgery 2 yrs ago. She is starting to have a bent back but still drives etc but only in daytime hours. Yes I worry a lot about how many years I have left with her and I know since I live WITH her I will feel it more than my sister. We’ve even talked about the financial stuff. <br />So yes I can definitely relate to your worries over your parents. Let ius hope they have several more years left!! <br />Love Leslie XOOXOXOXLeslieMGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07406502536368114535noreply@blogger.com