tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-88432616123445761.post6302926970338900202..comments2023-05-28T01:49:23.470-07:00Comments on Dear Judy: WAITING! FOR WHAT?!Judy Torreshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01959100310748356791noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-88432616123445761.post-38597567091430486882010-07-08T09:56:04.671-07:002010-07-08T09:56:04.671-07:00Wow, you write so gracefully. You should really wr...Wow, you write so gracefully. You should really write a book...I love it! (BTW, my middle name is Elizabeth too) just had to add that in there lol. <br /><br />Its crazy how the events in our lives mold us and shape us to react to things and we become numb to it after a while. I went through some similar situations, and finally I made a list of what I will accept and only accepted to accept those things. I finally found the most amazing man ever. 4 yrs together...and two children later we are so extremely happy. <br />Women are loving open creatures to begin with and sometimes we need to shield ourselves more :)<br />Can't wait to read more!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-88432616123445761.post-78052732998445276712010-06-30T19:18:07.644-07:002010-06-30T19:18:07.644-07:00Judy I can't imagine doing that to you or anyo...Judy I can't imagine doing that to you or anyone else. I say to myself all the time that if I was not married I would love to take a chance on you. You seem like such a genuine gal. Funny, caring,big hearted, and down to earth. I been out of dating scene for a while. But I would be looking for someone like you. Are men stupid this days..Hang in there mami, I know you will find true love.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14955647374257020493noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-88432616123445761.post-27295989632532937402010-06-30T14:00:28.270-07:002010-06-30T14:00:28.270-07:00Wow Judy Im sorry that you had to go through all o...Wow Judy Im sorry that you had to go through all of this sometimes guys be the only jerks ! I remember when I got stood up i was 16 years old. I was going out with an older guy and we agreed to meet at 8 am at the train station. So I waited and waited and waited until 2 hours and I exited the train station. When I exited i cross the street I saw him standing in front McDonalds. I was like Wtf i was waiting for you he was like Oh Im sorry I have to do something for my mom. Then he answered the phone and it was girl which I heard him say I will see you later. I was soooo embarrassed and pissed off I walk off and went to school late. From that day on I never wait more than 15 minutes to meet a person.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02893977698060708003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-88432616123445761.post-41628860153719578892010-06-29T15:33:19.039-07:002010-06-29T15:33:19.039-07:00I just remembered YEARS ago waiting for a guy for ...I just remembered YEARS ago waiting for a guy for 2 HOURS!!lol how dumb I was!!.. I agree with the person who posted before me said first dates should be dressed casual - then if something clicks THEN a more formal dress up type date. I am actually dealing with someone who keeps calling me from time to time and getting STRONG vibes he is only into me for one thing -ex co worker from former job.. ugh - just glad he does NOT know my last name or my landline phone lolLeslieMGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07406502536368114535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-88432616123445761.post-28640374849811720022010-06-29T13:22:12.531-07:002010-06-29T13:22:12.531-07:00HELLO JUDY I wanted to say something in reference ...HELLO JUDY I wanted to say something in reference to your dad. My moms told me once my step father told her when he was young his father would beat him with a thin tree branch he also said he wanted to know where his father was buried so he could piss on his grave when my mom's told me this a sadness came over me and all of my anger towards my stepfather left me I wondered how does it feel when your dad beats you like that susposedly was often my stepfather is a cold person but I don't hold against him anymore cause I understand just sorry he did'nt over come that hurt and so I say to you exclude your dad from these other men try to see him in a different light why was he the way he was what was his childhood like it will be easier to understand when we know a little more about someone, it's the same with my mom she tells me stories about my dad but she also mentions some goodness in him. Well take care and God blesstrain guy 502https://www.blogger.com/profile/08736241496311591743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-88432616123445761.post-78830120048030970452010-06-29T10:55:09.318-07:002010-06-29T10:55:09.318-07:00I'm so sorry to see that some jerk at the end ...I'm so sorry to see that some jerk at the end of a long line of jerks stood you up. I'm trying really hard to recall if I ever got stood up. I'm sure I did, but I have a knack for blocking certain memories out. But I do have what I call a 15 minute rule. If we plan to meet at a certain time and you are not there on time, then I will only wait an additional 15 minutes before I move on without you. Because I will only allow someone to make a fool out of me for only 15 minutes. It's a good rule, and I've put it to use many times. Whatever it is I planned to do with someone, I can do on my own as well. Whether it's the movies, dinner, dancing......I can do bad all by myself.<br /><br />I also related to the story of you crying and the rain hiding your tears. That happened to me once. I walked home in the rain crying when I was 18. I was going through some personal drama about my life, and who I was. I never forgot that day and what it meant to me.<br /><br />You are strong and fabulous. Dont let anyone make you wait more than 15 minutes girl!<br /><br />You also gotta laugh in their face too next time they call. That'll get 'em!Angel Lovehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07395230918151879056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-88432616123445761.post-8381261979448753682010-06-29T09:02:36.497-07:002010-06-29T09:02:36.497-07:00Wow but not surprized you see were talking about p...Wow but not surprized you see were talking about people.Both genders are capable of standing someone up. first I once heard, men are like melons to find a good one a 100 you must try! first it was best that you didnt meet these men who stood you up they would'va wasted your time. So it was best not been more involved than you was .What is it that your looking for in a man? what is your critirea,see I have a friend who likes them tall dark and handsome yet she's alone.picky for a GQ man.See when men and woman get pass GQ or FASHION MODEL and start getting to know someone for substance what there about. when you go out on a date forget the make up,hair,pedicure,manicure you can't cover up who you are. See personelly I'm not impressed with outer appearances I have no high expectations and please don't misunderstand see I don't know the oppossite sex not until we meet and get to know each other,I'm not throwing on a suit or flashy anything I'm gonna try to be me if you like me then I'll dress up on later dates. empress me with who you are not what you are. JUDY life is hard your going to meet good people and people who will disappoint you, please don't become cynical towards men cause some have jerks let you down. As for your dad, my father who I only went out twice with got drunk both times one of those times walked thru rain and mud in P.R I still reflect on that and say what was my dad thinking about what was on his mind I say that to tell you think aboutwhat might have been going thru his mind at that time and what was troubling him that he did'nt show up.Judy hope is a good thing and I hope to one day have coffee or lunch with you maybe in little italy in the Bronx I'll be early I'll leave the day before LOL and make sure my phone battery is fully charged lol...train guy 502https://www.blogger.com/profile/08736241496311591743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-88432616123445761.post-87338433079426517452010-06-28T23:15:34.526-07:002010-06-28T23:15:34.526-07:00Wow Judy, guys r such dirt bags now a days!! That’...Wow Judy, guys r such dirt bags now a days!! That’s why I’m sticking with myself 4 now and reaching 4 my goal to become a child psychologist or maybe even a singer. And in a way I am just like you. My dad always use to stand me and my mother up ever since I was little cuz he lives in NY and we live in Jersey. And when I try to get to NY I would have to wait for him, I’d always be ready, but he never shows. Don’t get a call from him until SEVERAL days later. He still does it @ times til this day and I’m 20 years old!! I know your thinking why don’t I drive; the thing is my mom hates my driving after a certain incident. I know your thinking why not take the bus, well my mom doesn’t trust my dad that well for him to be waiting @ the port authority for me to take me back w/ him to White Plains. He stood us up there for a very long time back when I was little so she’s worried if he’ll do it again. <br /><br />Yes being stood up now and it’s happen to you in your past is very traumatizing. Just happened to me this past weekend. I was supposed to go shopping with my friend, who I consider my sister, but didn’t happen. She confirmed with me the day before, which was on Friday, that she was going shopping with me on Saturday. I texted her to see if she was ready, no answer, called her twice no answer. So I just texted her never mind and went by myself cuz I had a party to go to that night. When I got home I told my mom but I started to cry cuz I didn’t expect that from her. That’s something my dad would have done and that’s why it hurt me soo much. I’m going to stop now haha cuz I’m going to start crying, I had to hold it in while I was reading this blog cuz I can feel your pain. But remember those guys are some dumb idiots for treating you like that cuz you are an awesome person. It’s their lost in such a big way. As for your dad, I’m sorry he did that to you; just know that you’re not the only one that had that happen to you. Love ya chica!! Besos!Shaquintahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09392150392606627219noreply@blogger.com